Posted by: Trevor Riches. 27th February 2015.
How is it that some people seem to be able to get almost all the things they want in life?
Is it luck? or God? or are they simply destined to have it easy? as if some unseen force is working to ensure that they have it all.
Well, actually it’s none of the above!
At first glance it’s easy to assume that someone else has got what they want and are happy. But not only do we all have our own unique challenges in life, generally we like to give the impression to strangers that we have got it ‘all under control’.
First of all
Try to stop worrying about what other people have, or what some people may think of you if you don’t have it.
Just because somebody has plenty of money for example, doesn’t mean they are happy. Sure, if you had more money, you would be happy right?
But recently I was talking to a man who works for uber-rich people. He had to fly out the next day to see a client who is a billionaire. He said his client was a really nice man, but he seemed to be so lonely. Lonely? with a billion?
The old saying ‘money can’t buy you happiness’ may sound a little corny, but it is true. It could be that the nice billionaire just wanted someone to share his life with; but how could he know for certain that the person he liked wasn’t just interested in his money?
So if you can’t buy happiness, how do you get it? Well, happiness comes from within.
As Wayne Dyer pointed out “There is no way to happiness; Happiness is the way”
Mindfulness and being grateful
As a child, whenever I complained about not having the latest fad, my mum used to say “oh well, just count your blessings”. I never did count them of course, I just carried on moaning; but now I realise she was right.
So now, even though I’m living the life I always dream of, if I start to feel that things aren’t quite going my way, I stop; I become mindful of my surroundings, of all that I am, of all that I have; and I count my blessings.
For example, you’re reading this page, so you can be grateful that you can see; and read for that matter! There will be somebody who dreams of being able to see words on a page, and another who can see them, but has never had that chance to learn to read.
You are living their dream life!
If you are unhappy with how things have turned out for you, try to assess what it is that makes you truly happy.
You may have been brought up to beleive that you must always put other people first; and not to just ‘look after number 1’. But if you don’t take care of yourself, you will eventually ‘run out of steam’ and be no good to your loved ones.
If you go through life thinking “what will other people think of me if I do what I want?”, this can be a terrible burden to carry; you can never really know for sure what’s in another person’s mind.
Try not to worry about what other people think of you; it’s what you think and feel about yourself that truly counts.
People who get what they want in life know they are worthy of their space on this planet as much as anyone else, and will have their own way of stating “I am…….”
The last thing to realise
People, who are able to get what they want, know what they want. Simple isn’t it? But how can you get what you want in life if you don’t even know what it is?
Many people find themselves in a job, a house, or even a relationship because they didn’t really know what else to do. If that’s you, try to give yourself some quiet time away from your daily routine, to just sit and think. Then ask yourself “what do I want in life? What will make me truly happy?”
This can take time and you may need some help, after all you may have been ‘going through the motions’ for decades. But it’s never too late and when you finally know what you want you will have what we call, your outcome.
Now, with every day that passes you can ask yourself “did today bring me closer to, or further from, my outcome?”
With this knowledge you have the ability to control what you do, to plan where you go and how you get there, and eventually get what it is that you want.
If you are interested in making a change to your life, to work out what it is that you want, and how to get it, we would love the chance to help.